I believe that the time and alignment of the world with the rest of the universe plays a large part in the things that appeal to us. I am a full fledged, bonified Aquarius woman. Social butterfly one minute and quirky loner in pursuit of the new “interesting”, the next minute. The broad connections of social media has made being me EVEN MORE fun that it already was.
I was on myspace.
Then I was on Facebook (still am)
Then, I discovered Twitter. What stuck out about it, and why I hovered there so long, was that it felt as though I was able to read that person’s mind. 140 characters is just enough to tell someone about your mental chatter…no matter how banal the topic.
On Twitter, I shared a lot of information about natural hair, just as the recent trend was taking off in 2009. It was there that I could really teach and let thousandths of people know that natural hair was here to stay and that people should find ways to get comfortable with it and themselves (before larger companies would come through and mass market or trivialize it, but that’s another blog topic!). It was (and is) a place for me to educate, encourage and reach out to those who were otherwise isolated from the valuable information about transitioning, maintaining and styling. I speak to them in the ways that I speak to my friends and clients, with my (((((((hugs)))))) for long sufferers, ****shimmies**** for that right product found and —–> 0_o! over the events of their lives (hair related or not).
I make my connections real. I wouldn’t be a true Aquarian without having fostered several virtual and physical friendships from engagements on social media. There are several young women that I have met on Twitter and Facebook that I am currently doing business with, have done business with, done their hair, educated them in person or simply met in person and shared a hug (or two!). Fostering friendship bonds should be a matter of sincerity instead of a bed-post mark up of perceived social importance. I have high standards for myself in this matter because dealing with the heads of hair of black women also means dealing with some pretty heavy psychology as well. I have held hands through big chops, loc removals, loc installations and several transitioning sessions shared between my salon and my next door neighbor’s shop who specializes in braiding and weaving. Its not just our hair, anymore, but an epic culture shift away from insecurity and fear and towards being self-assured and confident. This shift stands ripe and ready to alter the black hair care industry (in products, manufacturing and sales), to create jobs and add millions of dollars of opportunity for small business owners to reach and affect the world market.
I support those bloggers/vloggers who encourage and properly educate the people. I support the product makers who have taken the time out to educate themselves so that they can bring excellence to us in the form of products (and in the understanding of applied chemistry). I definitely encourage every sister and every woman of color who struggles with this mental transition into natural hair to connect with an authentic and kind soul, such as the late Dawnyele Partee, however ultimately making the connections deeper than our hair. In her last video, she gives us a few minutes of connection to how she is feeling, to her legitimate exhaustion in being a full time mom and employee. Yes, her hair was divine and always “laid to the Gawds”!!!…but she was also a person with a good heart, a life outside of YouTube and Natural Hair. The passing of this sweet sister is a reminder to me to practice fostering genuine connections.
Pray on it, then ask a sister in your life some genuine questions about her dreams, her fears and how she plans to overcome them. The people she loves and how they have influenced her, the burdens of her soul and how she has practiced fortitude in hard times as well as how she manifests mercy towards hurtful people and forgiveness towards them. Moreover, if you are dealing with sisters who are draining you of your life force, taking and not replenishing…let The Spirit guide you on which connections need to be fostered and which of them need to be terminated.